Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it

Happy Valentines day people :) Such a hyped day for people in love !!! Why???
One of my closest friend said something today and made me think about it -"If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise the moment just ... passes you by... " If you say you love someone , right then , out loud , everyday becomes a Valentine's day :)". Now ain't that the truth. Thanks Priya :)

Everybody was asking me about my plans for the day and here I sit with henna in my hair bored to death, jobless and almost 6 months pregnant, planning the event for the evening. I love cooking and all I can think of is food these days so I am thinking of a nice romantic dinner without candles (our smoke detector doesn't like candles :) ). Amidst of these thoughts I drifted back to my first date ...was it a date I am not even sure of it right now. Anyways we went for a movie "MASTI"-everybody who watches Bollywood movies knows what this movie is all about :) then I ended up in a hospital for couple of hours due to difficulty in breathing. No, I did not hyperventilate 'cos of the movie. I just sat on the hospital bed thinking, "Oh God! why now? These goes my chances of befriending this guy (romance just flew out of the window)".
But to my surprise I am married to that guy :) and he has turned out to be a perfect husband.

I am always surprised by the choices of movies that we made - when we started dating and the first movie that we saw post marriage. "Life in a Metro"- story about infidel spouses living in a metropolitan city, working in call centers. I mean com'on how could we !!! But thankfully those movies come with a disclaimer that its an act of fiction without any real life people involved in it.

Now, lets come back to present....morning started with a small heartshaped card that I hid in his overcoat and I loved the expression on his face when he found it. I know every married woman says that she is the luckiest wife ever and its so true that we as wives are indeed lucky - It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. ~Rita Rudner. I agree with her so much. I am off to prepare the wonderful dinner for my valentine (Anand) and wish everybody out there who is in love and who is not in love that - Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it. -- George Carlin






 

From being a daughter to a mom.......................

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone




Having a baby is one of the most magical moments of your life. It practically turns your world upside down.

Not long ago I was a kid myself and its seems so unreal that today I am carrying a whole new person inside of me. Life takes a complete 360 degrees turn the moment you decide to add another human being into your life and being responsible for the kind of person he turns out to be. I just hope and pray that I turn out to be even 50% of what my mom is as a mom.

Words are just not enough to describe what I feel right now. It seems like I was born to be a mom. The bond one feels with this little person who you haven't even seen (except for couple of ultrasounds) is just undescribable. The reality of being pregnant sets in when you feel the baby move for the first time. Now I have somewhat learned what my mom felt when we were late from school, work or for the matter of fact from anywhere else. I feel almost the same anxiety if I don't feel my baby move for even couple of hours.
Its such a heart wrenching feeling when you realize what you did to your mom's heart whenever you did something she did not want you to do. You can't understand the pain of another person unless you go through it.

My life has changed so much. These days when me and my husband, Anand go for shopping and he asks me to get something for myself , I just don't feel like it. I want to save everything for my baby and get everything for him. The only thing that bothers me is being away from my family so far away. I want my child to know everyone in the family beyond us and instill those family values that our parents gave us. My father in law gets upset sometimes just by the thought of not being able to see his grandchild right after he will be born and it rips my heart too. I hope we will be able to visit them soon after this little one is born.

I just want to relive my childhood through my child and I know it will be difficult if its a boy. Anand already has certain plans for the baby if its a boy. He wants to train him in martial arts and get trained along with him. I still remember his expression when I told him that he was going to be a dad, he just did not know to cry or to laugh.

I just can't wait for this little guy to come into this world and brighten everything around us. As Bill Cosby once said - Having a child is surely the most beautifully irrational act that two people in love can commit.


 

Ratan's birthday

September 6th....birthday of a very dear friend Ratan...he left me for his heavenly abode 15 years ago....may his soul rest in peace.We did not know each other for a long time may be an year or two and by the time I thought we are good friends it was his time up here on this planet. The worst possible thing is having a fight with your friend and being too late to make up for it. Same thing happened with me....After our annual examinations result in 1995 I got to know that Ratan had failed the examination and we will be in the same class going forward.I had a bitter sweet feeling and guess what Ratan was totally cool about it.But then after a few days we had a fight over a trivial matter and I just stopped speaking with him.Then I got news from a common friend that Ratan is in hospital and unconscious. The moment he got up he conveyed through his family that he wants to talk to me but as bull headed I am I did not talk to him.

June 29th 1995....someone knocked the door...it was a friend and had some news about Ratan.I was worried sick about him by then and just shot the obvious question to the common friend."Is Ratan doing fine, is he out of pain now?" He said,"He will never be in pain anymore." Thats it. I lost Ratan and I lost my chance to make it up with him. It rained and rained seemed like Gods crying with me mourning over his loss. I went to his burial and felt numb while I walked back home.

I am so sorry Ratan that I did not even get a chance to say sorry to you or even that I value you as one of my great friends.Miss you everyday. Happy Birthday!!!!